Real strength isn't found in having all the answers.
It's found in having the courage to keep showing up—for yourself, for your partner, and for the life you want to create.
I’m not going to apologise for being old-fashioned.
Here’s how I see it:
With very few exceptions, women want a strong man. Full stop.
They want strength in every sense of the word:
• Strong clarity of purpose
• Strong physically
• Strong confidence
• Strong presence
• Strong listener
And yes—they also want you to be funny, gentle, kind, and able to touch her really softly, with skill and presence.
Let’s be honest: it’s a tall order.
You can buckle up and do the deep work, or you can settle for “OK” (or worse) in your love life and intimacy.
If you’re looking for the easy route or quick fixes, this probably isn’t the right place for you—and that’s okay. I wish you the best.
But if you’re ready to step onto the serious roller coaster of deep intimacy, sexual mastery, tremendous personal growth, and spiritual evolution… I’d love to meet you.
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PS: I spent years on the “easy” path—not by choice, but because I didn’t know better.
Thirty-five years into my marriage, the biggest transformation of my life happened when I finally committed to the real work. The results in our connection, sex life, and overall fulfilment have been profound. I’m happy to share the lessons, resources, and practical tools that actually work.
If you want to learn more about me, scroll down to the About Mikal section.
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Coaching with Mikal
I support men to navigate the ongoing challenges of being in a long-term intimate relationship—physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
Click here to check out my “Step Up And Be A Man” coaching program.
Being a man today isn't always straightforward.
Many men carry enormous responsibility. They work hard, provide, solve problems and keep moving forward. Yet underneath that can be loneliness, uncertainty, frustration, or a quiet feeling that something important has been lost.
Perhaps communication has become difficult.
Perhaps intimacy isn't what it once was.
Perhaps you're wondering why the relationship you care about feels harder than it should.
You don't have to figure it out alone.
A Different Kind of Men's Coaching
This isn't about becoming a different man.
It's about becoming more fully yourself.
Together we'll explore what gets in the way of the relationship you truly want—with your partner, with your family, and with yourself.
Our work may include:
- Understanding conflict without blame
- Building genuine emotional strength
- Learning how to communicate with honesty and respect
- Reconnecting with intimacy and desire
- Navigating life transitions and midlife challenges
- Developing resilience and purpose
- Creating a relationship that feels alive again
My coaching is practical, compassionate and grounded in real life.
There is no judgement.
No pretending.
No pressure to have everything sorted.
Just honest conversations that create meaningful change.
Why Work With Me?
I've spent over three decades exploring what creates thriving relationships.
Alongside my wife Kathy, I've invested deeply in personal development, relationship education and embodied coaching. We've lived and worked in retreat communities, studied with leading teachers, and together have navigated the joys and challenges of building a long-term partnership.
I know that relationships aren't always easy.
I also know they're worth investing in.
Sometimes all that's needed is someone beside you who can ask the right questions, offer a different perspective, and support you to become the man you want to be.
Who This Is For
This coaching may be right for you if you:
- Want a stronger relationship with your partner
- Feel disconnected from yourself or your purpose
- Find communication difficult
- Want to understand women better
- Are navigating separation, parenting or major life changes
- Feel stuck repeating the same patterns
- Want to become a more grounded, confident and connected man
You don't need to be in crisis to benefit from coaching.
Sometimes growth begins simply because you know there is more available.
My Approach
I believe healthy masculinity isn't about having all the answers.
It's about being willing to stay present.
To be curious.
To take responsibility.
To keep growing.
Because when a man changes, the relationships around him often change too.
Ready to Take the First Step?
If you're ready for more honesty, more connection and more fulfilment in your relationships, I'd love to have a conversation.
Let's explore what's possible.
Click here to book a complimentary discovery conversation.
Coaching Options
One-to-One Coaching
Private coaching tailored to your unique circumstances and goals.
A confidential space to explore what's really happening and create practical, lasting change.
Click here to check out my 10-week program: Step Up And Be A Man
Click here to book in a discovery conversation to explore other options.
Couples Coaching
When appropriate, Kathy and I also work together with couples who want to rebuild connection, deepen intimacy and create a relationship that truly works for both partners.
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Retreats
Click here to learn more about Individual and Couples retreats at our beautiful Sanctuary
Not sure where to next… click the button below to book in a complimentary meeting where we can talk it over so you can make an informed decision of what is best for you.
about mikal
For much of his early career, Mikal followed what many would consider the “right” path. With a successful background in banking and the computer industry, life looked secure and predictable.
Then, in his late twenties, everything changed.
He get married… and then divorced six months later.
He walked away from a promising career and set off on a 20-month backpacking journey through 30 countries across Africa and then continued to Asia.
Along the way, in Uganda, he met the woman who would become his wife. They dated across three continents and five countries, eventually moving in together in Paris before making New Zealand home in 1993, where they married and raised a family.
That journey planted a seed that has continued to grow for more than 40 years.
It wasn’t just a passion for travel and adventure—it awakened a lifelong commitment to personal growth, self-discovery, and understanding what creates a deeply fulfilling life and relationship.
More Than 30 Years of Coaching
Mikal has been coaching people for over three decades, helping business owners, leaders, and individuals create greater clarity, confidence, and fulfilment.
Throughout those years, one truth kept revealing itself:
Our intimate relationships have the power to bring us our greatest challenges—and our greatest opportunities for growth.
They can be places of pain, frustration, misunderstanding, and loneliness.
They can also become places of profound connection, passion, freedom, healing, and love.
Learning how to navigate that journey is a skill—and one that very few men have ever been taught.
A Passion for Helping Men
Much of Mikal’s understanding of masculine and feminine dynamics has been shaped through decades of study, personal practice, men’s groups, relationship work, and hugely influenced by the teachings of David Deida.
Over the past 20 years, he has naturally integrated these insights into his coaching whenever clients found themselves struggling with relationships, intimacy, communication, or their sense of purpose as a man.
Again and again, men shared that these conversations became some of the most valuable work they ever did.
Today, Mikal offers this work intentionally through FYCoaching.
He works one-on-one with men who want to experience greater confidence, authenticity, intimacy, and purpose in their relationships and lives. Together with his wife, Kathy, he also offers coaching for couples who want to deepen their connection and create stronger, more fulfilling relationships.
Beyond Coaching
Mikal is the author of multiple books, including two co-authored with Kathy, and hosts the Mental Fitness: The Gateway to Success podcast.
His work combines practical coaching with decades of lived experience, helping men move beyond simply “getting by” toward relationships that are deeply connected, honest, passionate, and real.
If you’d like to discover whether Mikal is the right coach for you, the best place to start is to Book Your Free Discovery Conversation below.
